Anita and Ben Wedding Photo

Wedding photo

Shared Values are Important

“From One Christian to Another…”

Is it good looks? Same age? Sex Appeal? Income? Education? I ‘d like to suggest it’s shared values because without that, the two of you are not on the same page. Every marriage has struggles, but a bedrock of shared Truth can help you through them.

Interracial & Intercultural Marriage    Cross-Cultural Couples - Ben Talks at Lutheran Churches

I’m in my 70s now and a widow. I was married for 40 and a half years to a man radically different from myself – a different race and culture. We were about as “night & day” as possible. We weren’t the same age or nationality. And yet, we shared our Christian faith and it made all the difference.

Raising Kids the BoysBe Careful Who You Marry

I want to tell young women, “Be careful who you marry! Find a man who shares your faith and commitment. Take this seriously because it will prevent heartbreak in the future.” There are many interracial and intercultural marriages today with mixed religions and nationalities. A couple may be young and attractive – basically suited to each other, but if they aren’t on the same page with their world view, I think it’s going to present problems.

The Husband is the Head of the Home                 

As a conservative Christian woman, I guess, I believe the man is the head of the home as described in Ephesians, Chapter 5. This doesn’t mean the wife doesn’t contribute in very significant ways, but the husband is entrusted by God to make final decisions. He is to be the spiritual head of the home. This presents a huge problem if the husband isn’t a Christian.

Anita at table with two kidsWomen

Should Take Leadership in Certain Arenas

I know you are thinking I’m from the stone age or hanging onto old ideas from past generations, but God in His Word has ordained that someone in a marriage has to take the reins. Has to take the ultimate responsibility. I know as I write this that it’s March – Women’s Month. I’ve been watching lots of programs on PBS World where women are showing leadership. There is nothing wrong with that!  It’s great! I applaud it. Women have as many gifts as men. I’m not saying that.

Marry a Man Dedicated to the Lord                                                 

But when you become linked with a man, the dynamics are there. You are forever in a new partnership and you better both be pulling in the same direction with the same values in life. Women, do you take your Christian faith seriously? Then marry a man dedicated to the Lord. Trust God to provide you with a godly husband. I can promise you won’t regret it.

Young women, blessings on your journey of faith, anita

Beyond Myself Book Cover by Author Anita Katherine DennisBeyond Myself: The Farm Girl & the African Chief

I describe my journey of faith in my memoir of my love story. During the 1960s, I married my anthropology

professor who was a hereditary African Chief of the Mende tribe in West Africa. This led me to visit Africa a number of times and live in his remote village for a year with our 3 boys doing lay missionary work. I certainly didn’t do things perfectly. And yet, the Lord has been so gracious in my life! I can only praise and thank Him!